Who’s in your inner circle?

This summer has really given me an opportunity to reflect upon and appreciate so much the people I have surrounded myself with in my life, the people who are in my inner circle and the people who have the most access to me.

Jim Rohn so accurately says that “you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” and I have consciously worked to build and create relationships, both personally and professionally with people who bring out the best in me, who challenge and motivate me, who encourage me and enhance my life, who make me happy; people who genuinely care about me and want to see me being the best that I can possibly be and who love me unconditionally for who I am!

These handful of people are the ones I trust implicitly, who I know have got my back and who I would in return, do anything for as well. They are the people around whom I can confidently be myself without fear of being judged or put down and who accept me for the person I am today.

What I love about my inner circle is that they have shown me who they truly are through their actions and gestures, not their words. They are authentic and real and all in one way or another bring out the best in me just because of who they are and how they show up in life. They have come into my world from so many different walks of life – they are family, neighbors, work colleagues and some incredibly special friends, both new and old. They are the people who make me want to be a better person every day!

So if you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with – which you are – who are you surrounded by? Do they bring out the best in you?

Think about the people you spend the most time with and write down the qualities of those people.

Do they love and inspire you?
Do they challenge and support you?
Would you call them positive people? Happy?
How do they interact and affect you?
Do they make you feel like you have what it takes to reach your goals and more?
Do they support you?
Do they make you feel special and appreciated?
Do you feel respected by them?
Do you feel happy and energized after spending time with them?

If you answered “yes” to these questions, you’re probably already surrounded by the good people you need.

But if the people you spend the most time with are not contributing to your life and your personal development in a consistently positive way it may be time to distance yourself from them and limit the time, if any, you spend with them. This may seem harsh, it may seem selfish but I promise you it’s not!

And only you will know who is good for you. So think about what I’ve shared above, reflect on who is a key part of your life and then be intentional about either investing even more in those relationships or quickly distancing yourself.

But also keep in mind that we are all different and surrounding yourself with good people does not mean surrounding yourself with people who are all the same – you want diversity in your life, you want opportunities to learn different and new things and be exposed to different and new perspectives and experiences.

But you do however always want to surround yourself with people who at their core have the same values, morals, integrity and respect for others as you do.

How do you find these people? Be your most authentic self and it will lead you to and attract the people that are right for you. When you’re surrounded by good people you’ll know it because you will feel energized, inspired, supported, loved and that anything is possible.

So today, make a commitment to yourself start spending more time with the “good” people in your life!

Until next week – embrace your inner truth, live your purpose and make your contribution in the world.

With gratitude and appreciation,

5 thoughts on “Who’s in your inner circle?”

  1. Thanks Lauren…great article. I guess that’s why the Rabbi’s said in Ethics of our Fathers “acquire for yourself a friend”. If you truly find friends like these they are worth pursuing and maintaining if it costs you! 🙂

  2. When you hit a new PR or reach a new goal, you should share it with others who’ll appreciate it. When you struggle or have a setback, you should share it with others who’ll listen carefully. When you have to make an important decision, you should be able to speak honestly and openly with those in your inner circle who will provide you with solid feedback.

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